Feed your princess and your wild child! Sit with us ….
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Find you, feel you, be you, do something.
Feed your princess and your wild child! Sit with us ….
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Following along our Valentine’s theme here, this was an excellent podcast:
Relationships can be tough, whether it be with a spouse or a kid or a family member or a work colleague, you name it. We’re all familiar with the common platitude that you “must love yourself before you love anyone else”. And yes, I suppose there is some truth to that. But there is so much more too.
Many IG accounts (mine most likely included, shit!) would have you believe that you need to aspire to some heightened state of zen and self insight to be eternally happy and successful in this place. If you are unhappy, turn inwards and contemplate. If you are struggling, sit quietly and rest. If you want the ultimate health, work on your this and that and consume this potion NOW! Of course, at times, this is all absolutely true and needed. But, it’s a fine balance between being “good to yourself” and seeking inner expansion and becoming a bit of a self-centered asshole. (To be clear, I’ve not mastered this balance at all. So I’m learning right along with everyone else on this one too. Namaste. LOL)
I loved what this podcast had to say about relationships that work.
I have many relationships in my life but two of my most important are with my husband and my “work wife”. I can say with absolute certainty that what makes these two partnerships work is the struggle. Yes, the struggle. The struggle is, indeed, real. And at times, the struggle really is a solid pain in the ass. However, every time a challenge presents, whether it’s something we chose and invited or whether it’s something that blindsided us and momentarily knocked us flat, we thrive. We kick into gear and make it through. As life would have it, this is a pattern that repeats. At times it is tempting to complain about this repetition but listening to the chat above clued me into it’s value. Because, unbeknownst to us, each time we’ve made it to the other side of these battles, we’ve laid bricks on top of the foundation and told our brains that yes, this partnership is strong, it is lasting, you can trust it. Trust is a big deal. It’s a monumental deal for me.
One might think that well, that sounds boring. Here you are, just plodding through life, tackling “struggles” and such. How can that be more exciting than being out hiking rainbow laced trails in countries you’ve never explored while sipping fairy dusted earth potions? Well, let me tell you. When you fully trust a partner, when you’ve created synapses in your brain over and over again that fire and tell you there is nothing that can stop you two, then things get really bloody exciting. You can dare to do things that others wouldn’t. You can really push each other to actually be better, not just for yourself. You can dare to let yourself go, I mean, really go. It feels electric. Exciting. New. Wild.
So have a listen to this and see what you think. Then put your head to thinking who in your life do you want to go deeper with? And go grab them, get into battle with them, repeat a few more times, and then watch those sparks fly! Yowzaas!
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There are few things, only a few, that I use daily that I think are truly outstanding. I’ve talked about most of them before but I thought I’d give a little recap here. They are sort of in order of appearance as the day evolves. I’ve shared most of them with others and those who are like me love them as much as I do. Enjoy.
1. Foursigmatic Mushroom Coffee – less caffeine, more adaptogens, same wake up! I’ve never been a good breakfast eater. My mom agonized for years as I continually shunned eating before any early morning sporting endeavour. Interestingly I then got older and then proceeded to also chastise my dad for years as he’d wait until way late in the day to eat.
Here we sit in 2018 … Et voila! … All of a sudden all the cool kids are skipping breakfast as part of various fasting trends haha. In all seriousness, for me, there’s a period in the morning that I can be very effective both mentally and physically if I just stick to a little coffee or tea and carry on. Granted, I dig into some mean leftovers at lunch usually.
https://us.foursigmatic.com/collections/mushroom-coffee
2. Living Tea Seasonal Tea Club OR White Pu-erh tea from Silk Road
Check this out: it is SO MUCH JOY when it arrives every few months!
https://www.livingtea.net/products/subscription
If you are worried that swapping tea for coffee won’t leave you as pumped up, fear not with this bad boy:
http://silkroadteastore.com/shop/tea-cake-pu-erh-white/dp/2537
3. Danielle Laporte Desire Map Planner – my attempt at doing a touch of journalling and focusing my day before heading out the door and falling victim to everyone else’s plans for me.
http://www.daniellelaporte.com/2018-desire-map-planner-collection/
4. May Lindstrom – it seems ridiculously expensive yes, but it will last forever!!! And you will be amazed.
This quickly before morning yoga or run:
This after said exercise:
Both dreamy, sensual ways to love yourself a little. If you just try one thing … make it the Blue Cocoon. I also love the Problem Solver mask.
5. Insight Timer – in a world where sleep was plentiful I’d get up early enough to do this every day, until then, I do the best I can. You can get swallowed up looking for meditations to try, these are my go tos:
https://insighttimer.com/giovanni/guided-meditations/guided-i-am-meditation
https://insighttimer.com/andyhobson/guided-meditations/mountain-meditation
https://insighttimer.com/welcomeearth/guided-meditations/kundalini-gong-breath-meditation
6. Down Dog Yoga App – just get it and try it!!! I really recommend wireless headphones when you do. I use ones by Monster Achieve. I’ve been doing this App for a year or more and I still can get sore sometimes as it works ya good!
if you’ve got some time … which you do:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQjABYP3asQ
and, essential listening:
Poke around the blog.
Does it feel like you? Do you gain anything from being here? If so, go ahead and pay it forward to us. And by us, I mean this planet.
This time I bring you the Latitude Project. For many reasons it is near and dear to my heart so I assume it will be to yours too! Two Canadian sisters giving all they’ve got in Nicaragua.
Many ways to get involved or donate what you can:
http://www.thelatitudeproject.com/get-involved/
Watch what they do and why:
http://www.thelatitudeproject.com/what-we-do
If you are inspired to give of yourself leave us a comment so we can ride the wave with you.
xo
J
It’s weird.
Until the past year or so I think I’ve had a bit of a raging inner mysoginist. Of course this was not on purpose, this was not something I was even aware of and most certainly not proud of! For pete’s sake, I was a mom of 2 girls, I work surrounded by women, I was raised by a strong woman!! Nonetheless, I remember distinctly, one beautiful summer trail run, running along listening to Elle Luna on a podcast talking about her realization of this in her and literally stopping dead in my tracks and going, a ha! That’s it! That is precisely my problem! I held the women in my life to such high, unattainable standards that when they fell short, or fell what I perceived to be short, I held subconscious disdain for them. Or, even worse, I avoided being influenced by women full stop. On reflection, I only listened to podcasts run by males, most of the music I listened to was male singers, I felt more comfortable around male peers … what the holiest of fucks?!! I remember coming home, like I routinely do to my poor husband, and spewing all these intra-run epiphany’s forth and he went “well, ya, you totally do.” Well shit. How profoundly disappointing.
I don’t remember setting forward from that moment determined to change. I didn’t and don’t fully understand how that came to be a part of me in the first place. Was it “societal” influence? Was it my response to past experiences? Was it my response to misplaced judgements of myself? Who the fuck knows. Many people will say you can’t do well for others until you truly understand who you are yourself. Maybe this is what happened here. I had a flash of understanding and that is all it took to change.
Anyway, time passed, life flowed on, and I started this blog. I started writing about finding yourself, about doing so so you can serve others, about the dance of good and other in us, about not apologizing. Then someone wrote a terrible article about women in our local paper and I penned a response.
The response to what I wrote was immediate, passionate, and far reaching. I had hundreds of women thanking me. Middle aged women said they read my words and wept. Mothers thanked me on behalf of their daughters. I was told by a stunning 19 year old that I had executed the perfect “clap back”. After googling what that meant, hahaha, I was beyond humbled and taken aback. I felt such strength. From them. Somehow, a few short months after realizing I was the ultimate jerk in some ways, without conscious effort, I had come full circle. Life is a beautiful little beast sometimes.
So here I sit, at a desk surrounded by Tove Lo, Lana Del Ray, Lorde, Gioconda Belli, Julie Piatt, Angela Liddon, Danielle Laporte, my girls and so on. And here I continue to write, mostly with a similar fierce tribe in mind. I thank you ladies for walking with me through this little evolutionary blip, I know you’ve got my back, and can say with pride now that I’ve got yours too. So let’s charge on.
Sorry team. Got caught up in a beautiful day with beautiful people yesterday. So we’re a day late here. But I know you understand. Here’s to feasts and vibes and love and life. I’ll think of you sitting with us this week too.
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